I just stumbled on this particular video and I’m like, what!
Just because he is a celebrity and has enough cash does not give him the right to mess up with you like that.
In the video, the celebrity brings the lady fan on stage and lies on top of her and starts moving his waist round and round. Then he stands and brings the lady up and laughs.
As in, that’s part of entertainment, right?
C’mon! That’s nonsense.
And that brings me to the main point…why some men disrespect women.
I guess some men are just horrible in their relationship but there are a few things you ladies can do to earn more respect from men.
1. Respect Yourself
“If you want to be respected by others, the great thing is to respect yourself. Only by that, only by self respect will you compel others to respect you.” – Dostoevsky
Men respect women who love and respect themselves.
Learn to hold yourself in in high regard. You are not a toy that should be used anyhow.
Set high standards for yourself and do not make choices that are disrespectful to the life you want and who you want to be.
2. Have a Vision and Purpose for Your Life.
People love women who have a purpose for their lives and are fighting hard to succeed at them. No man treats such women with disdain.
But when you are only using a delay tactic, waiting to get married so as to shift responsibility to your spouse, one way or another, you’ll be disrespected and treated like a liability.
If you don’t have a good education, enroll in some part-time classes and strive to get a degree. If all fails, then learn a great skill and be diligent in pursuing your career.
3. Say No to Sex Too Soon
Men want sex, sex and more sex. In fact, 99% of the time, that’s probably what a man wants the first time he approached a lady.
But you have to understand that as much as men want to have sex with you, when you give in too soon, you often lose huge respect points.
In the book, Cracking The Man Code, Mathew Boggs says, ” men need time to fall in love.” Don’t give them the luxury of having it all immediately.
They need to get to know you, who you are and what you represent.
4. Respect People and Show Love to Kids
Men want a woman who is not too proud to say I am sorry. They will respect a woman who respects people and love kids.
On the other hand, when a woman is arrogant, quarrels in public, treats kids badly, that woman will be disrespected by others, including men.
5. Tell the Truth and Be Yourself All the Time
Once you are perceived as a liar, forget it. You cannot be respected or trusted by a man. Honesty and integrity are keys to getting respect from anyone.
Do not try to cunningly portray yourself in a way that gives the wrong impression. If you are looking for a relationship, tell the truth. If he isn’t looking for one, don’t waste your time or his by continuing to engage with him and giving him the wrong idea.
Being true to yourself and not trying to act the way you think a man wants you to act will allow a man to really respect you for who you are
6. Know When to Draw the Line
You must learn when to say…No, I am not interested.
Don’t try to postpone an answer you have at the moment. You cannot please everyone or be friends with everyone.
Some people have to stay away from your life, as far as possible.
Don’t make promises too speedily, because promises are very difficult to fulfill many times.
7. Be Godly
Truth be told, men want women who are godly.
Go to church regularly, pray and read your Bible. Develop a relationship with God and learn to hear his voice.
Read books and grow your knowledge.
8. Use the Right Words all the Time
Understand the power of your words and don’t underestimate them. Always come from a place of kindness, respect and love when dealing with people and you will get the same in return.
You earn respect through your attitude. If you make mistakes, make amends as soon as you can.
When you are acting out of love and respect for yourself and others, love and respect will be given to you, and if it isn’t, just remember some men are just terrible and you should avoid such men who cannot respect others.
Tell me what you think.