Carsten Wrosch, a professor in Montreal’s Concordia University Department of Psychology and a member of the Centre for Research in Human Development has spent more than 15 years studying how negative emotions, such as regret or sadness, affect people.
He said in one of his publications, “Persistent bitterness may result in global feelings of anger and hostility that, when strong enough, could affect a person’s physical health”
It’s not only Wrosch who think that bitterness, anger and hate can make people sick and endanger their lives. Over the years, there have been different studies that also confirm that.
But the Bible has been ahead of it all. It advised us in many places to forgive and not harbor bitterness against anybody or against anything, not even ourselves.
Forgiveness and Prayer
In Mark 11: 25, Jesus said….
“…When you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against…” (NLV)
Almost all of us have been hurt at one time or the other.
Perhaps your mother criticized you and called you names. Or a colleague betrayed you and told others some secrets you shared with him- Or someone sabotaged a project. Or your partner had an affair.
These pains can leave you with persistent feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance — but if you don’t practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly.
By embracing forgiveness, you also embrace peace, hope, gratitude, GOOD HEALTH and joy.
5 Categories of People You Must Forgive Immediately
1. Forgive yourself:
You would have messed up so many times in the past and missed so many opportunities. But forgive yourself. Stop blaming yourself and be free from regret
Whatever mistake you have made in the past has become one of the price you paid for a great success lesson, you couldn’t have learned anywhere.
2. Forgive God:
You’d be surprised how many of us keep blaming God for all the bad things that have happened to us.
Even though God never contributed to make our situations worse, we sometimes find ourselves asking, “but why did God allow that and why didn’t He prevent this?
No need for long preaching here. Let’s just say, Forgive God and move on.
Say it anyhow,
“Hey! Pop, Lord, God, Father,
I forgive you ok
Let’s make amends now…”
I think this is bringing you into a higher level of relationship with God as your father. Don’t try to be religious and miss the peace of God
3. Forgive the Government:
I agree that our government has not actually treated us well. But you have to move on.
Forgive the government, clear yourself of any form of bitterness towards the leaders and create your open doors.
Tell yourself: “Well, this government I forgive you. You have not really done well, but I forgive you henceforth. I receive grace to quit blaming people in government and move on doing my own best within my own environment”
4. Forgive Your Parents Or Children:
In my life most times I have blamed my parents for not doing their best to put my siblings and me on equal standing with others in life. And apart from that my childhood memory is filled with unusual wickedness meted out to my parents and us by the extended family members. I was always keeping these records praying to pay back at the appropriate time. But I found out I’ve got to let these things go if I’ll have to move on with my life.
Whatever wrong your parents or family members, whether paternal or maternal family members, have done against you in the past, forgive and receive God’s peace and move on.
Clear those records off your mind.
5. Forgive Those Who Have Hurt You In the Past:
Yes. Forgive those guys who betrayed you. Forgive those people who made you lose the contract or job and never cared. Forgive those people who took you for granted. Forgive those guys willfully owing you money and not wanting to pay. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.
Close your eyes and say: “LORD help me forgive this… I forgive him/her for this… Bless him. Help him…”
Cancel Your Plans for Vengeance
Trying to carry out vengeance on your own will always give you more trouble.
Withdraw all plans and setups to avenge any offense in any way.
When you do, you let God and the universe come into the matter. You’ll enjoy the results better.
Make Amends and Let The Sun Shine Brighter
Few days ago, I had to call my family together and apologize to everyone. I found out that when I’m broke I’m often irritated and most times I allow this irritation to burn towards others, especially my wife and immediate family members. So I did have to say sorry to every one of them.
Find out within yourself if you’ve done things that hurt someone in the past. Take steps to make amends.
Don’t be too proud to call your family members together and say, “I am sorry. I’ve not treated all of you well in the past. Please everyone, forgive me.” It doesn’t reduce you, rather it adds to you.
As a woman don’t be too proud to say to your husband and family (children and house assistants) “I am sorry. I messed up. Forgive me everyone.”
As a leader or manager don’t be too proud to make amends with your juniors.
Saying I am sorry doesn’t make you smaller than anyone. It is not saying it that actually makes you small and closes your doors.
Those people you owe call them and say sorry. Start making plans to repay them.
Those people who helped you in the past that you did not say thanks to call them and apologize.
Look deep inside and desire to make amends with anyone or group of persons that your actions of ignorance have hurt in the past.
Something Good is on Your Way
Forgive and make amends today. And receive answers to your prayers
Further Reading: Scriptures on Forgiveness